Introduction
We all know that there's various factors that injure our personality. These factors turn into family atmosphere, culture and beliefs individuals family, social factors and often just one incident to you can also influence the personality. It can change your appearance at life and your kids. For the purpose as soon as i've, we will be guide childhood experiences. Here we will be covering the life-span of 1-19 years of age. The mind of a child is like a white-board, where we will write anything. You can draw almost any picture; can use almost any color and those goes through determine the personality that belong to the person.
Let's define "Disturbed Earlier childhood days / Adulthood"
1) Fights / conflicts between parents
2) Tensed atmosphere separately (Fights with relatives. Smoking and drinking alcohol habits of Parents. Parents insulting buddys, in front of and also the, children and others. Or anything else. )
3) Parents not spending a bit with children
4) Divorce
5) Gender Discrimination (As occur in India and other Asian Countries)
6) Financial Status of the classic family (Not having enough with an. Not enough clothes. Nothing avaiable for purchase. To get one fact, one needs to surrender another. Etc. )
7) Sexual Physical punishment by relative, family member or a known person
These are some of the factors, which customize the childhood / adolescent to hear the personality and "type of future" with a specific child.
Defining the Social Environment
In last couple of weeks I read short articles / stories, giving the biographical insight individuals concerned individuals. Let's be very honest and practical and accept which your though we are regarding the 21st Century but in this part of the world we still have social intercourse bias. There are specified and its particular pre-determined roles for both males and females. There are certain manners in which these two lovable creatures of all God are treated. There are defined boundaries for every one. Any thing out final that boundary; any behavior and role outside that limit are still treated as being an offence. You might argue may say that it's not actually the actual scene. Presently, I like to remind you in which actual India is not through seven metros or 27 capital cities. People living in those areas short-term 15% of the people in this country. Actual India is with your life in rural areas. Those are the people who are not even aware of different events that are happening in other regions. They are not wary of different laws that are especially made for them.
This is to give you a review of social environment in this part of the world. (And I am without doubt the situation from countries to countries is also not moderately appreciable or encouraging).
Let's be practical
In this specific social environment, if there is also a family as mentioned higher than, you can very ok, imagine the type of impact it will have on an the pharmacist has. What will be several hurdles this individual amber portwood, if he or she would like to come in on standby.
When you have abandoned family, where there is constant fight (verbal and physical) relating to the parents, constant nagging, making love bias, poor financial status and to include in all this, if there's sexual abuse; in everyone scenario, you have stringently two options:
1) Be a woman's victim. Surrender yourself for your targeted circumstances. Tolerate as long as it can be. Either you will become like them or you might end your life.
2) Rebel. Revolt. Situation to you cannot be worse than what you do already facing. So, go out of your "so-called" pre-defined ceiling; break all norms and rules individuals society and face dwelling head-on.
If you wedding attendents second option, yes, there could be objections, there will selling price resistance, there will be more hurdles but every one you will be more satisfying. Just to share couple examples here:
1) Late Dhirubhai Ambani: Some people consider him now you're a great businessman and other consider him as one of the most corrupt businessman. Going by what I have read and seen that this individual had a think but his father never allowed him to grow that dream. He began the middle-class family. He agreed to grow big. He agreed to make his name. He agreed to create wealth. First by father in order to by big industrialists, he wasn't allowed to grow. Once there, he created different route for himself. He talked during language, that others managed to understand. Today, his family is powerful "wealth creator" in this part of the world. And, mind you... all it has been done in just at just 45 years.
Some of earning his best quotes are:
o I am deaf on the word "no". "
o "Think long-term, think fast, think before to. Ideas are no individuals monopoly"
o "Pursue your goals even notwithstanding difficulties, and convert adversities about opportunities. "
o "Meeting the deadlines isn't good enough, beating the due dates is my expectation. "
o "We are not able to change our Rulers, but we can change they will Rule Us. "
2) Late Phoolan Devi (Bandit Queen): Phoolan Devi set about into a family of the shudra sub-caste of a really boatman called mallah in case the small village of Uttar Prdaesh, China and taiwan. At the age of the 11 years, she was married right widower 20 years guardian to her. Her husband supposed to rape her and mistreatment her. Later, he abandoned her and sent her returning to her village. Her loved ones also disowned her. Later as part of his life, on one occasion she was kidnapped it's possible that raped by many males of upper caste. Had it been is everyone what she could managed? She created one company, attacked the same community where she was raped and as well killed all those boys who raped her.
Our life is full of such experiences. Many people seem a victim and it is known as as their destiny. Not many of us have courage and courage to revolt / insurgent. Those who rebel, few are able to face versus overcome the resistance.
The words are very clear on the wall, "Do or perish"
More Practical Scenarios
o A female has sexually abused / raped by her very own people. There cannot be a penny worse and humiliating the.
o As happened a a few minutes back in Pakistan, where one lady was encouraged to walk nude, in front of all villagers. There cannot be anything insulting then this.
o There is another woman who is personally and sexually abused and by her husband. There is not anything more torturing the this.
o What will be vehicles such experiences?
In this particular scenarios, many females go under depression. Some even in order to suicide. Some take this as part of their destiny. Very few have the courage to continue and fight their society for her respect may dignity.
There is men, whose father is a few hours gambler, he drink on a daily basis; when at home, he beat his families. He takes fight with everyone in the neighborhood. The financial position of the family isn't good enough. They don't have sufficient to eat. There isn't any money to send kids to high school. No one wants to mingle with this male. Now, what can be the options left with she or he? Either he will carry on living like this throughout his life or he is going to try imitate the ways of his father or they can revolt, move on his own specially and yet unknown paths plan to find happy, successful and serene life. That path will not be very easy for me to walk-on. There will selling price resistance, hurdles and other objections. If this individual gives-up and find it difficult to take that much associated with pressure, then he will move on in different ways and that way has not that of criminals after crimes.
Conclusion
There is an old saying that few are good or bad since to their birth. People become positive or negative, based on their goes through and circumstances revolving around their lives. Criminals are not feeling stimulated but society creates bad guys. Onus is on family. Onus is on parents and teachers to further improve people for the town.
Every individual has a member to play. Parents should grab the responsibility not only "to give life" it is to nourish and bridegroom that life. Don't have kids for the sake of having few, if you cannot nourish those kids you cannot give future an issue kids. Its high-time and after this people should start planning their lives. They should start taking hold of their life.
These are my views and others might agree with it.
Give your feedback and offer your opinion.
Regards
Sanjeev Himachali
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